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We Need to Talk

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Still up for grabs.

(yup, the most dreaded sentence known to man…)

 So…. let’s talk.

Last night was Come and Talk to Me 2 and well…

*crickets*

No. One. Talked.

The men who said they’d be there, who said with great bravado that they would win. That they were the most cunning of linguists…

Didn’t even show up.

The ladies showed, the judges showed, I showed.

Still searching for that cunning linguist.

Was it timing? Was it the heat? I don’t know, because last year, you came out. On Sunday, I hosted an event called Battle of the Sexes. One of the topics was Toronto stereotypes. One example given was that Toronto men are wack; that they have no game; that when Yankees or Montrealers come to town, that they have the women at “hello”.

I stood in front of that audience with full confidence and said “ah visitors are cool, but I LOVE my Toronto men…”

Then last night happened…

*crickets*

Now, a couple of guys showed up (but to observe, not to compete), and instead of Come and Talk to Me, we just talked. We shared stories. Asked each other questions. If you followed me on Twitter last night, you got snippets of this lively, dirty, and enlightening conversation. I’ll be honest: I thought I was running out of things to write about, but last night showed me that there is still so much to say.

So after about 30 minutes, I wiped the egg off my face, and said “screw it”. Ignored the mic and paid attention to the conversation around me. It was amazing, it’s the kind you didn’t want to miss…it’s the kind that built this blog.

But darlings… There are going to be a ton of women who are going to read this and say, “SEE? HLBB we told you these guys stay losing! They’ll never talk to us…they’ll just stare from across the room and never say a damn thing.” Or as one hilarious woman put it last night, you’ll be, “a restraining order waiting to happen.”

But this isn’t Toronto men, right? They don’t all want to stare, or just try their best lines in private. Right?

RIGHT?

I’m going to be an idealist. I’m going to continue searching. I’ll keep the certificate on my desk, and in a few months, we’ll go back to Saviari (which has an amazing drink menu…the most creative in the city) and we’ll put the mic up.

May the best man speak…

xoxo/hlbb

Come and Talk to Me II – Conversation Starters

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Lots of words can be used in a sentence and have no meaning.

So, what do you want to talk about tonight?

Hmmmm… so many options.

As always, I invite the participants tonight to ask a question they’ve been dying to ask women and see what kind of response you get. You see, the beauty in asking a question in a room full of women you don’t know is the amount of unfiltered answers you’ll get

Or, ask for advice. Instead of asking me about a situation, cut out the middleman and ask women directly (which is what I do)…
(Wait… uhm. That means no more blog… Scratch that.)

Tell a story… dramatic or funny…
(or read a Robert Munsch story and win my personal approval…)

Be honest…you’d be surprised at the reception you get.

Tell a secret…
(okay, maybe not)

But above all, DON’T tell us what you THINK we want to hear. 

Can’t wait for tonight!

p.s. you can always try to impress the judges… 

Looking for a few good…Conversationalists

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Over the weekend, I had two guys drop out of Come and Talk to Me…. which happens to be this WEDNESDAY

Excuse? Reason?

Well one cited a family commitment, and the other…he said:

“I do my best talking in private…”

(If I arched my brow any higher, people would think that I had a bad Botox injection like a Real Housewife of Nowhere.)

Really?

Okay, so I think some of you are missing the point. Come and Talk to Me isn’t about picking up women. That’s not the goal. It’s to talk to them. To CONVERSE (NOT CONVERSATE) with them. A gifted conversationalist can talk to a room full of people and make each one feel like they’re the only person they’re talking to.

A gifted conversationalist will single out one woman to talk to and engage her.  While the others watch in admiration and….dare I say it? Mild jealousy. Jealous because she is being treated to the gift of conversation; a gift that many women are telling me is in short supply here in this city.

Really? Your best talk is in private? Or your best lines?

Anyone can drop a line or two. A conversationalist can talk in full sentences.

Anyone can prattle on about insignificant things. A conversationalist can tell you a story.

Anyone can say forgettable shit. A conversationalist says stuff that people remember.

So, if you want to drop your best lines – in private – then do what you have to do darling boy.

We’re looking for men we can have a conversation with… who feels they’re ready to take his place?

Email me (email talktome@herlilblackbook.com)

Show up at Saviari Tea and Cocktail Lounge (they have tea, and cocktails, and it’s purple and decadent looking…it’s like the inside of my mind)

Show up at 8:30… there will be a VIP area for all participants (the hostess is lovely…see? I hooked you guys up this year)

See you on Thursday.

p.s. this past Sunday, I was the MC for Goddess Intellect’s Battle of the Sexes. When it came to the topic of stereotypes, one was that men use “psssst’ as an opening pick up line. Not ONE man in the room admitted to doing this, but all the ladies had experienced it at one point or another.  Hmmmm. Mystery. 

Come and Talk to Me II – Meet the Judges!

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Meet your judges…

Last year, this was my favourite part of Come and Talk to Me… the judging panel. While it’s the ladies in the audience who crown the winner, it’s the judges who give insightful, funny, and most of all…HONEST feedback.

Want to know if your verbal game is on point? Then look no further than:

Max Fab (returning judge) – Max of max-logic.com says what I think…most of her posts feel like they come from the inside of my brain… and best of all, this woman can talk nasty with the best of them. She could make Ron Jeremy blush. If you’re looking to aurally seduce a woman, Max will let you know if you’re hitting the right spot.

How to woo Max: hip hop, fresh kicks, and…size does count (the bigger the words you use, the better)

http://www.max-logic.com/2011/06/20/the-best-words-i-never-use/

Skye Blue (returning judge) – Skye of metanotherfrog.com has yet to meet a cunning linguist she didn’t like. Spark her mentally and you’ll set off a chain reaction. If the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, then the way to Skye’s is through her imagination. From politics to smut, you best have all your bases covered when it comes to conversing with Skye.

How to woo Skye: good, honest, communication. You’ve got something say? Say it. Use the words that will get you to your point. No mindless chatter.

http://www.metanotherfrog.com/2012/05/21/im-patiently-not-communicating/

Goddess Intellect (NEW JUDGE) G.I. tells both men and women like it is. She examines sex, love, and relationships on her blog goddessintellect.com. But, she also assembles a regular panel of relationship writers to discuss various issues in the popular “Battle of the Sexes” series… yup, she us duking it out in public!

How to woo GI: talk it out. Ask questions. Don’t try to have all the answers. She (like many women) know that it’s important to have a dialogue…you can’t talk to yourself when you’re in a relationship. Try it…see what happens.

http://goddessintellect.com/three-important-conversations-to-have-before-committing

Now, of course I’ll be there to be a sounding board, provide snark, and goad some of you shy observers to the get up on the mic.

So who’s willing to woo one of the judges?

Come and Talk to Me II
Saviari Tea + Cocktail Lounge 926 King Street West

http://saviari.com/

Cocktails and conversation…the perfect combination.